The David Fincher film, SE7EN, gave a quick recap of the seven cardinal sins of life, but what about the dos and don’ts of dating a woman?
Way to a man’s heart is something which everyone is sure about but to that of his rib-bone? Quite tricky. Eve was planned, so pull your socks up Adams, dating needs planning which shall lead you to her heart.
1. STUDY HER BODY LANGUAGE
No, not her figure mister, but how she places her hands and how she looks around. Body language talks a lot about each person and it is quite easy to catch her attention if you know what she likes and doesn’t.
First of all, a woman analyses and decides whether she should further see the guy, within the first few minutes of the date. So make sure that you impress her in the right way in a matter of minutes.
All you have to do is make her feel comfortable and voila, you’ve passed the test! Look into her eyes while you talk, for a confident man attracts a woman’s attention.
Look out for stolen glances, short smiles, adjusting her hair often and open body language. Those are the sure signs that she’s definitely interested in you.
Crossed hands and legs and uninterested attitude is a sign that you shouldn’t be wasting your time. The game’s over.
2. DO TALK, BUT LISTEN MORE
Not all ladies like to talk nonstop, at least even before intimacy takes form. All women like to listen to men talk about what is in their mind; this is a sign that the guy is interested in taking this to a higher level.
Studies suggest that food helps in deep bonding among people, so always choose places with great food while on a date. Foods like wines and chocolates release a tonne of “love
hormones” like endorphins, oxytocins etc. which elevates mood and makes you feel like in love.
Red wines release estrogen which lightens the mood and helps open up, further
bringing in intimacy and taking the relationship to a higher level.
Red wine hot chocolate is a great choice to lighten the mood and will heighten the level of your intimacy. So always choose foods with chocolate, grapes, and wines for a better foundation for your relationship.
Always remember that nobody likes a nonstop talker, so pause in between, give space for her too, listen to what she has to say and rather than a one-man show, a conversation with equal participation scores the highest points.
3. NEVER IMITATE; BE YOURSELF
Fake masks and fake attitudes are so overrated and almost everyone is tired of the show-offs on social networking.
It’s time to be genuine and show who you really are if you have long-term in mind. Women detest a man who boasts and shows-off and you are sure to cut a poor figure if you try to prove that you defeated Hercules in wrestling.
4. TURN OFF YOUR PHONE
This is the golden rule. Turn off your phone during the date. Checking your WhatsApp and scrolling down feed in Instagram might be hot in office, but never during a date.
This will send wrong signals to the lady and can be viewed as an indication of indifference. Women love it when they get attention and give her all the attention you have, and you have her heart.
Turning off your phone indicates that you value her more than anything else and that you don’t want anything to disturb you in your alone time. This helps to build a sense of belief in the lady, which is the golden ticket to her heart.
5. BE THOUGHTFUL
Debate skills are wonderful, but not while a date. Not everyone has the same ideologies as you, so while talking makes sure you value the other’s feelings and views too. Being thoughtful develops a feeling that her feelings and views shall too be valued while taking decisions in the future, which invokes a feeling of warmth which is essential in choosing a partner.
Moreover, tolerance is essential for no woman likes a man who debates on each and every subject they talk about. Also never continue a topic which makes the lady uneasy. This includes family problems and details about ex-es, which might disturb them.
Never push her to get the details, because once things take a new take; she would talk all about that even without you asking her. Therefore, not just listening, but intelligent talking is also important in winning a woman’s heart.
6. NEVER RUSH
Never rush, at least in the beginning. Let her take the first step towards intimacy. You can always show how much you care for her, by doing small stuff like dropping her off at home, giving a quick call to check if she’s doing well or not or simply calling on her unexpectedly.
Also, gift her chocolates or something like whiskey, all girls love them! Fill a hamper with creamy milk chocolates or mystic dark ones and team them up with her favorite red wine to create a wonderful surprise for her.
A short note of love, no longer than two sentences would do wonders. All these short surprises are sure to capture her mind and she’ll definitely open up and let you in her mind.
7. DON’T PLAY GAMES
Quit playing games. If you are not interested, just openly tell her that. If you want to meet up, call her. Playing games can be painful for both the individuals and it is always better to stay honest and be clear about your stands.
Winning a woman’s heart is easy; care and honesty always have weightage over good looks. So that’s your key!